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Choose How You Want to Live Your Life
Bring that into your relationships.
When people first meet each other, they tend to put their best foot forward.
It’s human nature.
You want to be attractive, so you show your best side.
You put the worn, torn bits behind you.
At first, you might pretend that those bits don’t exist.
You think about making a fresh start and you’re determined to stick with the new version of your personality.
When people are in their aliveness at the beginning of a relationship, their hormones change.
They are lit up and everything seems possible.
Then, because they felt so great at the beginning, they assume it will continue.
They behave in a way that says ‘I feel great when I am with you.’
There’s a downside to these fake personas.
If you decide the other person has to continue to act the same way to keep you feeling great, you’re buying into the fake version of themselves.
By forcing them to continue acting that way, you’re saying you will do the same for them.
